So many of us have been told we are being selfish either in our own self talk or by others in our life. It doesn't feel great either way.
The idea of being selfish came up in a group conversation I had recently; and when this definition of 'selfish' was shared it was a moment of, "Wow, I can't unsee/unhear that now." So often this word is used to shame, guilt, influence, and/or get us to change something we are wanting to do. Ponder this...does this definition of 'selfish' de-weaponize it for you? If so, what are some ways you can continue to lean into who you are, living your life in a way that makes you shine and use your strengths, gifts, and being the person you can to earth to be in all your fullness?
What is your new perspective on being 'selfish' now? And what does that look like for you going forward?
Frequently we get busy in our day and are just conveying information or having conversations without being conscious of our habitual patterns of speech. Being mindful of our words and speech doesn't require time to practice, however, it does take a willingness to be mindful throughout the day - both in talking to oneself and others. Words are the seeds we plant when we think, speak and write. Our thoughts become our speech, which then become our actions. Something to consider...
Sometimes when we're in a challenging season in life we can feel like others want to help us because we're a "charity case". What about a reframe on this...it is natural for others to want to be there for one another, and often this allows them to lean into gifts they have (baking, being a good listener, being able to fix anything, etc.), which allows them to give in this way which is a blessing for you BOTH. Yes, sometimes we need and want to process things on our own. Then there are times when allowing others to support, love and give to us can be such a beautiful and uplifting experience for us both.
"This" is anything we are going through in life. It could be a season of challenges, a rough day, or any other challenging situation that may be presenting itself along our journey. Knowing we have others in our corner can be such a relief and comfort.
When I speak of our bubble, it's that personal sense of space that we all have and that we notice when we are around others. It often extends about 18" from our physical selves, but it can increase or decrease is size, color, and density depending on our environment, mood, feelings, people we are around, etc. It can be interesting to start taking notice of this bubble and how it changes from day-to-day, and even throughout the day.
